Doctors are gift of God but when u marry, family too is important. I knew a couple in my last ward who got married in their mid 20's. Only idiots are unfriendly to non-Mormon spouses. We play doctor - then she leaves.
Why shouldn't both people be responsible for making it work. We are now in Residency, have moved each year and started a new adventure each year since marriage. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for four and a half years and recently broke up.
We attempted to date back when I was in undergrad and he was in med school, and it went nowhere -- mostly because I was young, immature, self-centered and your typical spazzy college kid at that point. As I grew and became confident, I learned how to deal with social awkwardness. If so that's a good sign. How do you feel about that. The LDS Church meets many of the criteria for cult behavior. I have been married to a doctor for 29 years now and think I have felt or experienced many of the worries expressed.
But my son will be 14 then and I will feel that I've already done the work of raising a child. We are best friends. Of course he invited me to come with him, but he is in the wedding, so I'll be sitting there watching him in the wedding on my 30th birthday weekend. Who knows, but I think it was especially hard for the moms of young men. I have missed the Church in some ways, and certainly the blessings of a temple marriage. It sounds like she's already considered marrying you and raising children in the church even with you being out of the church.