Like a whopping 72 percent of my classmates, I entered Harvard a clueless virgin. Explaining my school's overwhelming virginity is easy. My very first day on Harvard's campus began with a bang, to use the easiest pun imaginable. I lost my virginity at Harvard's prefrosh visiting weekend, Visitas. I prefer to say I "made my sexual debut" because I didn't really "lose" anything except for a hoop earring that somehow got wedged under his mattress, my hookup calling card to this day. In the morning, I felt oddly empowered, despite the lackluster five minutes of actual intercourse. I was finally a college girl!

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What are you writing about? Desvarieux, a Wellesley senior, asks me. But Wellesley students are not all Rapunzels or Gertrude Steins. While Wellesley students are by no means average, they are, for the most part, normal. Perhaps the only over-arching generalization that can be made is that they all worked hard enough in high school to get into a liberal arts college consistently ranked by US News and World Report as one of the best in the nation.
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