I lived in China for over two years, and on my first day in the country living in a city that was not known for having many Westerners there a middle-aged woman walked up to me on the street and touched my hair… Welcome to China! Living in a foreign country, especially one where people look different to you, can be a daunting experience and puts many people off travelling abroad. In Japan, I feel safe. People will often go out of their way to help you when you get stuck — one of the biggest perks of being a foreigner in Japan compared to, for example, China, where locals would often avoid a foreigner rather than having to deal with a difficult situation.
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Also, being a foreigner and trying to date in a country that is But fear not! Japanese author, blogger and YouTuber Yuta Aoki has made a name for himself by candidly talking with Japanese people about their thoughts on a number of issues, including the Japanese dating scene.
Marriage between Japanese men and Western women
The way he approached me, he just had all the qualities I was interested in. He was attractive, older than me and seemed serious. Yet he was super-kind and gentle — though some people think he looks scary. But none of it was ever really serious or fruitful. And, I was much more into using Japanese back then. Anyway, I dunno, it just worked out.
A Japanese groom and a Western bride is by far the least frequent scenario among over 20 thousand international marriages each year in Japan. In fact, these three scenarios alone account for over half of all international marriages in Japan. When it comes to marriages between Japanese and Westerners, the gender pattern is reversed, the foreign spouse most typically being an American man. Seen as cold, workaholic, and simultaneously chauvinistic and effeminate, they are among the least desirable candidates for husbands. Likewise, Western women — perceived as more assertive and emancipated than their Japanese counterparts — are quite far from the Japanese feminine ideal. True, the reported sex life is not the most fulfilling. Yet, there seems to be a certain degree of rationalization, with other aspects of marriage seen as compensating for an inadequate sex life.